Toddlers are amazing. My daughter explores the nuances of the word “no” with unrelenting talent. At times, it can be overwhelming, but it is her way of diving into the adventure and exploration of independence.
The other day I turned on the water to feed the plants, and water squirted out of the sprayer. She was amazed and her mouth was wide open with awe. A sense of wonder overtook her, over a sprayer for my tomato plants!
How do we as parents preserve the awe and wonder and excitement of childhood, while also providing structure and boundaries and consistency?
Become a child
When I make my daughter laugh, it is a feeling unlike another.
I have found that fart noises and silly sounds are a sure way to make my toddler daughter laugh.
We can learn a lot about the simplicity of life through the eyes of a child. Sometimes life needs a little bit more of the silliness that childhood allows.
When we seek to join our kids in their childhood experiences, it builds connection, love, and feelings of mutual affection.
Become an adult
With that said, there are a lot of adult children. There are guys that play video games more than they play with their kids, or couples that take on debt like it’s going to be illegal. Sometimes we have to step back and ask, “What is the adult thing to do?” Having a child often requires making tough decisions that are not fun.
When we as parents choose to grow up, we create a model for our children. We may sacrifice and choose what is un-fun to set the example of adulthood while also balancing that with allowing the inspiration of childhood to join in this journey.
Become a guide
Being a guide or teacher to our children is very different from being a jail warden. A guide helps to make clear the path through education, example, and teaching. As parents we can find the balance of boundaries and awe by helping our kids to see how their decisions go beyond themselves.