Traverse City Record-Eagle

Opinion

February 14, 2014

Forum: Autistic Peer Mentoring program

By Christopher Morey

Recently my wife, myself, and another parent were invited to speak with 24 students who are involved in the Autistic Peer Mentoring program at Traverse City West Senior High. Our son, Guy, is autistic and two of the students who were present work with him in this program.

After exchanging huge volumes of information in a very brief amount of time in the hallway, we went into the classroom. We three parents sat down on one side of a table, facing the group of students.

Our different experiences exemplified the tremendous range of behaviors and abilities found in autism. Our son loves words, but frustration with his own inability to communicate effectively when he was younger resulted in over a decade of destructive and violent behavior. The son of the other mom was never violent, but does not speak.

We talked about being the parents of autistic children and answered questions from the students. As our conversation went beyond the allotted time, the teacher interrupted and gave the students an opportunity to leave. None did.

Talking about these experiences, and about our children, is always emotionally intense. Doing so in front of such a wide-open and engaged audience was nearly overwhelming.

By the time we had to go some of the students were in tears. A lot of the rest of us were barely keeping a lid on.

I was amazed.

In the habituated continuity of our lives we easily bypass moments of essential beauty, though they may be right in front of us.

Our time in that classroom with those students was such a moment.

With openness, sincerity and respect, these high school seniors are making a heartfelt effort to reach across the formidable wilderness of barriers that define autism, and to genuinely understand.

How often do any of us do that, with anyone?

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