Traverse City Record-Eagle


September 5, 2013

Suspect's last blog post


So less than a week before school is to start, she is uninvited.

I am devastated.

My husband is gutted.

My husband is an administrator, sure, we never expected or wanted special treatment. Only to follow the behavior plan from the behaviorist and throw some flash cards in front of her (not playdough, she is a smart kid. Time to work on science and other subjects). Just for everyone to do their job.

What exactly is wrong with a doctor performing surgery on their own child? Is there a large sample size of doctors doing such a thing? And if so, what did they find? The doctors weren’t careful? The doctors took short cuts? The surgical staff was more likely to treat it like ‘party time’ or be more serious since it was the doctor’s child?

I have ruined everything. I should have stroked egos.

For 12 years, I have done a fabulous job of complementing professionals to stroke egos, kissing enormous asses to get needs met, flexing my muscles when necessary, and begging when it was called for.

I’m a firm believer that you do not need to be a bitch to be an advocate.

But there is always this too:

With this teacher, I pushed when I should have pulled, bobbed when I should have weaved, bit when I should have kissed.

There is more. Of course, there are two sides to every story, you are only reading mine. The teacher insists this is an ISD and district decision. And the teacher is correct. The ISD makes a recommendation to the district of what they feel is best placement for the least restrictive environment for the student. There are also all the details of this meeting that make it perfectly legal. Pulling this rug out from under us was done the right way, well, legally anyway. Yes, we can appeal. Yes, they are offering us an alternative option. It is a program she was in before. She was not successful in that program. Also, did I mention that it’s a 2 and 1/2 hour bus ride – one way? We aren’t going to do that to her again. I’m sparing you every crappy detail.

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