I can't slow down. I need this article more than anyone. I have a baby, house, job, private practice "¦ the list goes on and on. I bet your list is similar. There is always a reason why I can't slow down.
I went to the U.P. this past weekend. I sat and drank coffee, looked out at the morning water, and read a magazine. Why is it that when we get away from town, we let ourselves relax? These are three things that are starting to work for me (I'm not there yet).
- Put it in the schedule.
Did you know that 15 minutes is 1 percent of your day? I think we actually have time to relax for 15 minutes, we just don't make the time. If something is written down, we're more likely to follow through. Plan to relax.
- Get out.
When we are in our homes, we see the laundry, cleaning and opportunities to not relax. Planning time out of our house clears our mind and gives us permission to forget about the struggles for a space of time. Get away from your house.
- Drag it out.
When I do errands, I fight for the closest parking spot, hurry in, hurry out and run back home. There have been times when we have gone to the farmers market and parked a few blocks away. We strolled, looked at the river, and we didn't hurry home. Drag out the time that you are out and about.
But why should we slow down? Shouldn't we be more efficient and productive? Yes, this is true. There are times during the week that productivity and efficiency are of value. Yet, if we make it a lifestyle, we increase our stress, which can lead to a lower quality of sleep, which increases anxiety and depression, while lowering our quality of life.
When you step back, why are you in such a hurry and what is it doing to you? Try it for a day and see if makes you feel better.
Joseph R. Sanok is owner of Mental Wellness Counseling in Traverse City. He helps angry kids, frustrated parents and distant couples. Access his "Happiness Resources" at www.mentalwellnesscounseling.com/resources/happiness.